Communication is the
Key Element in Online Dating
How does a cyber romance vary from a real life romance? Perhaps one significant difference is that communication plays such a large part. Words that convey feelings have enormous effect. Before a real date we fix our hair and our clothes, but on the Internet we polish our intellect, imagination and personality. In essence, the sequence is reversed—first we show our inner self—and only after acceptance on that level do we make arrangements to meet in person.
It is a popular topic in cyberspace to debate whether or not true love can develop merely on an intellectual level, that is, without the physical attraction and the familiarity of the other's appearance? To put it another way: if through the exchange of thoughts and feelings a couple fall in love, what part will the physical appearance play when they begin to meet and spend real time together?
Many say it is against the nature of love to be deprived of the sense of sight, the look, the movement and body language being present. There are those, of course, who favor Internet relationships claiming that the intensity of the emotional relationship that develops in such a way is superior to the mere stirring of the flesh.
Whatever the opinion may be on cyber love—it must be said in favor of the Internet that it puts people in touch with people that otherwise would never have met.